Help, my mother is cyber-stalking me on Facebook!

No matter how careful you are, you can't really control what people -- including your newbie mom -- can find out about you on Facebook


Sure, Facebook has a zillion privacy controls – too many for most people to understand. Heck, if Randi Zuckerberg doesn’t understand how they work, how can anyone expect us non-Zuckerbergs to figure them out? But there’s very little you can do to keep your friends from revealing information about you, or sustaining connections in the virtual world you thought you’d severed in the real one.

“I said I’m going to get off Facebook because this doesn’t feel good,” she says. “I have personal pictures and information about my kids on there. People with more malicious intent than my mother are out there. You just don’t know who’s friends with the friends of your friends.”

The ironic part is that after Lauren shut down her account some of her friends took it personally; they thought she’d had cut them off. She says she got emails from them asking “what did I say to make you unfriend me?” Lauren had to then reactivate her account briefly to tell everyone why she was leaving. That’s the status update I happened to see.

“When I got off Facebook I thought I’d miss it,” she says. “But I don’t miss it at all. People I care about who want to keep in touch can email, call, or text me. I just don’t trust that I’m going to be safe on Facebook any more.”

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